What I attach my attention to grows

“I maintain relationships that I get strength and energy. What I attach my attention to grows.” These were the two sentences that popped up from the cards that I use to empower myself. So often they draw my attention to very important issues I unknowingly neglect or have a habit to sabotage. If I pick two or more cards the message will be slightly different what it would be if I picked up only one. Like today, these two sentences together makes me think other things than if it was just one.

To me they say that what I see on the other person or how I see our relationship is where it grows. It is not just the first impression but further on we tend to have these perceptions or assumptions that might not be even true. These false perfections grow within the more we feed them. This is so important to realize and stop, because you might lead yourself far worse or you both. We create while we go so we should not think too far ahead, and we should not stick to these first impressions or assumptions because they misguide us. We might even create some unwanted behavior on their behalf if we think negatively about them or their reactions.

Do not fear, cause you create more fear on your life. The more you think that something is wrong with you the more you will experience it. The more you fear that people will attack to you or hate you, the more you will get that. So even if you have no one who likes you or say it straight to you do not let the fear defeat you. Remember that self love is the key how others see you.

It is understandable that if you have had horrible past that it is not easy to let go of those horrors. I know myself. You just have to take steps and encourage yourself. Be happy if you get out of toxic relationship, or if you are finally free from abusive parent etc. Congratulate yourself often. Make it an occasion to dress up in new style, smile to your neighbor, do things that you would do to tell the world that this is great day or happiest day of your life. They might notice and pass on this good feeling that you shared, because they feel sharing too. You don’t have to tell the reason, just be mystic about your happiness for a little. Only share your feeling not the event or your fortune/abundance. World will join you and you create the ripple of happiness that can spread faster than you know.

Thank you for coming together with me today. Bless you! You made me smile. I wish you will now pass this smile on. Thank you!

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Powerful people

We get confused about the thing that we should not expect things. This is misleading us to think that we should live in the now moment and just flow. We should learn that by setting boundaries we give signs and expectations to other people. This is just as it should be. We should be strong enough to set boundaries to know what we tolerate.

There will always be people who will do whatever in their power to control and manipulate and if we allow this “mindless”flow within, we allow them to set boundaries and we start to live by their expectations and rules. This world is about power and if you don’t own your own power you will be leaded to what suits someone else. The very reason for you to become “victim” to moan about the injustice.

So in order to have power and healthy boundaries you need to step up and tell the rest of the world about your healthy expectations. It is within that we create the expectations not without or towards someone. Unhealthy expectations towards others are something we should avoid by all cost.

Know yourself and know what makes you happier. Give up on things that weight you down or make you feel less. No matter if it is someone close or a thing. Surrender to knowing that you are perfect and having experiences you need to grow unless you choose to stay stagnant, to settle for something that makes you feel like you are not enough or you should change. Pleasing is giving your power away.

It is natural, when we grow to lean on to peers and to find some set of rules or definitions to help us grow further but we should not cling on to them because by clinging onto we create only new kind of stagnant belief systems and paradigms  that we should avoid in the long run. We should only allow the flow and constant new settings and then let go of them when they no longer serve us. The mindful knowing that some belief or way to act doesn’t serve our growth anymore. This is to understand that moving on can create uncertainty and fear, still we should seek the unknown. We should understand that if we trust enough to our own power and our intuition we will get the teachings and teachers that serve our ascension. We should also understand that letting go or giving up means sometimes what we call losing. Loss is natural process of growth. It is not the loss and lack that we should concentrate but the coming of new that should excite so much that we would not cling onto lack and loss.

It is okay to grieve, that is a process too, but more like process that we allow. We should allow the tidal waves to come and do their work within.

So grow and have your healthy expectations and boundaries. This is how we find people that resonate with us. You push unhealthy relationships out of your space and let healthier new ones to come in. Come from a place of love to yourself! Lots of love from this little soul who writes these messages. Have a blessed day full of pride that you have the power.

Understand that knowledge is not always meant to be shared or timing might be off

I received a message yesterday about two people. I then came to question what I should do with this info. Should I share it with them? Was it just for me for my higher understanding? What is important about this and so on. The questions kept on coming to me? It was a whole day bombarding conciseness about how I should act. Finally I decided  to meditate to calm myself and to connect to my intuition. I immediately knew what was the purpose, how was it meant to be shared or not at all. That knowledge that I received relaxed me and calmed me. I was able to leave the message to be info to myself only.

So often we share info/gossip/perspective/haft truth or what ever come to our knowledge without a thought that what is it for that we came to know about something. This is so important that we would stop before our actions, that we would be mindful about things. Mostly it is our old ways to respond or share whatever that we make, damages others and ourselves. Because once you have said or shared something you can not erase it. For human mind it is luring and tempting not to stay put but to be fast forwarded. To leave sometimes things to unravel by themselves (divine timing) would be much more beneficial to everyone. Human mind only controls, wants to speed things up or think that some knowledge makes someone to change, but this is not so. Or maybe that was so in the old ways, but not anymore.

As we have ascended we have come to understand that what appears to be seen as with visual is only parts of this process. The “train” is moving on and there is a next physical already forming already. So if we need to assist someone, if we need to share or push someone to one direction, we will get the intuitive push to do so. There is always sense of peace and knowing that your actions are to benefit all of those concerned. As for my case this was not to be so, so I let the info silently to sink into my own awareness to benefit my peace and calmness about this particular thing.

So I would want to remind all of us to slow our actions and responses once in a while. To understand that train is really moving on even though we might not see what is coming next or why certain things have to happen. It is about letting go, letting things to flow with ease. Let go of control, let go of knowing how things and timeliness should look. Let go of judgment to the process. Just see the outcome that you desire, see the perfect health, see the perfect house, the perfect family situation or the dream job you would love to live. Follow and let things then come to you. They will most often not appear all at once as one solution but more like one stepping stone at the time. Learn to be patient! This is most important in your ascension.

Needy

Needy is often seen as very negative behavior. Sure children and elderly or disabled are allowed to be needy but how is it with others? There is also behavior that is opposite to neediness which is being too independent / too self sufficient. Strong people have learned this behavior mostly as a child due to some toxic situation or relationship in their family or at their community. They keep on repeating this behavior till they come to a healing situation or relationship.

How can we come to a healing? How can we learn to trust people close to us again? If there was one answer or a pill I am sure someone would have made a big money out of it already. Sadly there is no one solution or pill yet. We just have to start to work with ourselves. We have to start to trust our own abilities. We have to find courage to ask professional help when we seek answers. We must start self empowerment and after that to realize when it is safe to trust others.

We have to be needy to self love. We have to accept the darkness and the cries and solitude times. We have to start to speak to ourselves and to know what we want and what we need, to be happy and to be able to trust that we can keep on going.

There is surely neediness to human contact and for hermit like people this neediness can be overwhelming. To be able to tell people that you need their friendly opinion and a moment of their time not their full time presence or some form of relationship other than just a moment. That you value their opinion and their perspective on the matter just so that you are able to make up your own mind. I know people will often interpret opinions as manipulative, but if you are like analytical mind yourself then you appreciate and “need” other perspectives to make the most effective choice you can. But we have come so fearful over neediness, that we push away those that we could ask assistance.

So how to tell someone about your level of need? How to say I am not someone that you can always be around with for I need my hermit life. I do fine on my own, I just need one moment to share something. How to make someone understand that there is a level of need you need to find balance with them? There needs to be understanding about what is neediness overall. What is adult like need, that you can trust the partner over? What is healthy? How to be respectfully needy and not sending the message that you are being taken for granted? Neediness is much deeper in a relationship than just “I need you around for fun.” or “I need you to pay this and that.” Respectful neediness is a balance to have the courage to ask and to be heard and have both of your needs met as well as it is possible at the time.

There is no need for drama or silence (anger). You simply respect the others possibility to give their time/resources and you are respectfully willing to keep giving and getting in balance. So we could say that neediness is someway a healthy human way to co-work with each other. Respectful balance should be included of course.

So learn to mindfully observe your own level of neediness and be willing to grow in areas of responsibility where there is a clear indication of imbalance.

Wish you all flourishing week ahead. Keep you mind open and evaluate your need. Empower yourself if possible and share from your abundance. Stay positive and intuitive! Much love and angel love to you all!