Dialog with the nearest and dearest

The conflicts and issues with the near and dear ones seem to arise. We take peaceful approach and we are trying to come to their level of understanding. We are trying to visualize the picture from both sides and then fill in the missing information that we need to make the shift to the next level. The difficulty within this communication is the resistance from both sides and also the knowledge of thinking that both are students and teachers. So we need to approach the situation with grace, not taking the approach of “know it all” but more like genuine dialog where you ask clarifying questions and tell your perspective with honoring ones right to reject the given info. So the dialog comes to a flow of emotions at the same time keeping the frustration out of the picture.

This is the picture given so often when we come into dialog with children or elders, those that are not from the same age group. The hardest of them all restrictions within dialogs and changing the paradigms and values within society or within self. Once we get past this issue, we will be better communicators, teachers, healers and leaders. So now we come to a point to questions what is worth and what is not of our intention, time and effort.  The knowing when the discussion is fruitful and when it is not. We can stay in the level of insisting that our perception is right and new knowledge so therefore it serves the humanity better or we can simply give the seeds of our perception and therefore bring hope and awakening to them. We might also find some useful knowledge from the other perspective, the elders might have gone through these situation and they can explain how not to act if certain outcome is not desired. On the other hand young ones can have clear review and courage to test different approach, but this is why we need the knowledge of the elders. By knowing the past, we are able to reduce the potential of possibilities we might need to try. The benefit goes both ways. The elders might then realize how this time and this situation needs new tools and new kind of approach. The judgment goes down little by little.

There might be some jealousy of the fact that someone learned and tough a new and more effective way, but the ones that meet the jealousy and therefore judgment should know that the benefits to all of the humanity are greater than ones emotional reactions. The realization of ones self-worth, and self-love are inevitable, because the work yet still to be done will be easier to those yet to come. I know I am talking self-explanatory here, but I also see that now that some newcomers arrive to this new level we need to repeat and remind from time to time. There are also those that are so filled with info, that their mind and brain gets blocked from these simple truths.

Repetition is the mother of learning is the truth that we hate and love. It is not so much of being able to repeat from the books that, which we have learned but the understanding how to use these new tools and new knowledge time over and over again till they came a new habit, part of our new practice.

I wish this viewpoint gave you something to take with you today and for the rest of your days. Much love from me! Push and push, but know when to stop if things are repeating or they don’t approve in any ways. “Giving up” is not always giving up, but the acknowledgement of the fact that things don’t meet they way that they would be aligned to an acceptable outcome to you. Respect each other enough to give space to them and yourself to grow. Make new habits and teach yourself if there is no other one to teach. Observe yourself and dare to ask from your higher self to lead you to the path that you need for the desired outcome.

Succeed on your own terms and determine  what the success is from your own perspective. Do not fear to add little bit when you reach the goal or the next level. Plan ahead for the next possible goal and outcome, keep on your journey for there is no right or wrong turn.

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Powerful people

We get confused about the thing that we should not expect things. This is misleading us to think that we should live in the now moment and just flow. We should learn that by setting boundaries we give signs and expectations to other people. This is just as it should be. We should be strong enough to set boundaries to know what we tolerate.

There will always be people who will do whatever in their power to control and manipulate and if we allow this “mindless”flow within, we allow them to set boundaries and we start to live by their expectations and rules. This world is about power and if you don’t own your own power you will be leaded to what suits someone else. The very reason for you to become “victim” to moan about the injustice.

So in order to have power and healthy boundaries you need to step up and tell the rest of the world about your healthy expectations. It is within that we create the expectations not without or towards someone. Unhealthy expectations towards others are something we should avoid by all cost.

Know yourself and know what makes you happier. Give up on things that weight you down or make you feel less. No matter if it is someone close or a thing. Surrender to knowing that you are perfect and having experiences you need to grow unless you choose to stay stagnant, to settle for something that makes you feel like you are not enough or you should change. Pleasing is giving your power away.

It is natural, when we grow to lean on to peers and to find some set of rules or definitions to help us grow further but we should not cling on to them because by clinging onto we create only new kind of stagnant belief systems and paradigms  that we should avoid in the long run. We should only allow the flow and constant new settings and then let go of them when they no longer serve us. The mindful knowing that some belief or way to act doesn’t serve our growth anymore. This is to understand that moving on can create uncertainty and fear, still we should seek the unknown. We should understand that if we trust enough to our own power and our intuition we will get the teachings and teachers that serve our ascension. We should also understand that letting go or giving up means sometimes what we call losing. Loss is natural process of growth. It is not the loss and lack that we should concentrate but the coming of new that should excite so much that we would not cling onto lack and loss.

It is okay to grieve, that is a process too, but more like process that we allow. We should allow the tidal waves to come and do their work within.

So grow and have your healthy expectations and boundaries. This is how we find people that resonate with us. You push unhealthy relationships out of your space and let healthier new ones to come in. Come from a place of love to yourself! Lots of love from this little soul who writes these messages. Have a blessed day full of pride that you have the power.

Loving myself

I accept myself completely.

I forgive my lacks.

I am complete right now right here.

I am enough.

We might indulge ourselves sometimes to fulfill the shame and the lack. We might feel imperfect and judge ourselves harshly. That is not necessary. Let go! Know that you are the key. You can make it happen. You can turn the tables around till the rest of your days. It is not about the goal but the journey that you choose to take.  Make your own decisions, learn from the opinions but don’t let them lead you astray. You are the captain of your own ship. Accept your situation and take the course to the next harbor.