What I attach my attention to grows

“I maintain relationships that I get strength and energy. What I attach my attention to grows.” These were the two sentences that popped up from the cards that I use to empower myself. So often they draw my attention to very important issues I unknowingly neglect or have a habit to sabotage. If I pick two or more cards the message will be slightly different what it would be if I picked up only one. Like today, these two sentences together makes me think other things than if it was just one.

To me they say that what I see on the other person or how I see our relationship is where it grows. It is not just the first impression but further on we tend to have these perceptions or assumptions that might not be even true. These false perfections grow within the more we feed them. This is so important to realize and stop, because you might lead yourself far worse or you both. We create while we go so we should not think too far ahead, and we should not stick to these first impressions or assumptions because they misguide us. We might even create some unwanted behavior on their behalf if we think negatively about them or their reactions.

Do not fear, cause you create more fear on your life. The more you think that something is wrong with you the more you will experience it. The more you fear that people will attack to you or hate you, the more you will get that. So even if you have no one who likes you or say it straight to you do not let the fear defeat you. Remember that self love is the key how others see you.

It is understandable that if you have had horrible past that it is not easy to let go of those horrors. I know myself. You just have to take steps and encourage yourself. Be happy if you get out of toxic relationship, or if you are finally free from abusive parent etc. Congratulate yourself often. Make it an occasion to dress up in new style, smile to your neighbor, do things that you would do to tell the world that this is great day or happiest day of your life. They might notice and pass on this good feeling that you shared, because they feel sharing too. You don’t have to tell the reason, just be mystic about your happiness for a little. Only share your feeling not the event or your fortune/abundance. World will join you and you create the ripple of happiness that can spread faster than you know.

Thank you for coming together with me today. Bless you! You made me smile. I wish you will now pass this smile on. Thank you!

Powerful people

We get confused about the thing that we should not expect things. This is misleading us to think that we should live in the now moment and just flow. We should learn that by setting boundaries we give signs and expectations to other people. This is just as it should be. We should be strong enough to set boundaries to know what we tolerate.

There will always be people who will do whatever in their power to control and manipulate and if we allow this “mindless”flow within, we allow them to set boundaries and we start to live by their expectations and rules. This world is about power and if you don’t own your own power you will be leaded to what suits someone else. The very reason for you to become “victim” to moan about the injustice.

So in order to have power and healthy boundaries you need to step up and tell the rest of the world about your healthy expectations. It is within that we create the expectations not without or towards someone. Unhealthy expectations towards others are something we should avoid by all cost.

Know yourself and know what makes you happier. Give up on things that weight you down or make you feel less. No matter if it is someone close or a thing. Surrender to knowing that you are perfect and having experiences you need to grow unless you choose to stay stagnant, to settle for something that makes you feel like you are not enough or you should change. Pleasing is giving your power away.

It is natural, when we grow to lean on to peers and to find some set of rules or definitions to help us grow further but we should not cling on to them because by clinging onto we create only new kind of stagnant belief systems and paradigms  that we should avoid in the long run. We should only allow the flow and constant new settings and then let go of them when they no longer serve us. The mindful knowing that some belief or way to act doesn’t serve our growth anymore. This is to understand that moving on can create uncertainty and fear, still we should seek the unknown. We should understand that if we trust enough to our own power and our intuition we will get the teachings and teachers that serve our ascension. We should also understand that letting go or giving up means sometimes what we call losing. Loss is natural process of growth. It is not the loss and lack that we should concentrate but the coming of new that should excite so much that we would not cling onto lack and loss.

It is okay to grieve, that is a process too, but more like process that we allow. We should allow the tidal waves to come and do their work within.

So grow and have your healthy expectations and boundaries. This is how we find people that resonate with us. You push unhealthy relationships out of your space and let healthier new ones to come in. Come from a place of love to yourself! Lots of love from this little soul who writes these messages. Have a blessed day full of pride that you have the power.

Saying goodbye

How hard can it be? How this time slips away and the correct and most appropriate way tries to find its way to come out. Yet we try with tears in our eyes. Moment just past by and now that it is over we are saddened by the way we handled that goodbye, knowing that there is never an easy way. The goodbyes come always too soon, are inconvenient or harsh in some way.

We just have to grow thru this and we have to let go. Forget the past in some respect. Learning and knowing that this tiny part of you will always stay within. You were so diverse. You were silent yet loud at times. You were strong minded but so very insecure within. Your eyes spoke much more than what your lips ever did. Those kind eyes, that I know have seen so much.

Now that the moment has past and you went away, I wish I could only say that do not doubt. You have goodness inside of you, just let it come thru. You are so balanced and ready to fly, do not doubt that time has already gone by.

Are you the one who is too afraid to step forward?

Today I noticed in social media that some people are hesitant who to choose to date with or have even further commitments. This is what I have learned and found very helpful on choosing people. Go within first of all. Do not listen to advice too much, because people are giving advice from their personal experience. You know best! That is the first rule. The second rule would be to look the situation in a long run. If you could imagine someone beside you as you are unable or the other one is unable to connect or merge with you physically but still you feel the love , that is when you know you have found someone worth keeping. I happen to know from my own experience that people might not be able to express their physical love, but the higher connection will satisfy you never the less. You are willing to continue living with that person anyway.

The other thing I noticed was about letting someone know that you have feelings for them. I think it is very good that we have feelings for as many people as possible, that is only telling us that we are emphatic. Caution is  appropriate of course and we should also be able to clarify if it is friendly love or something more what we are feeling. First to ourselves and then admit that to other person. We should also evaluate our life situation, are we connected and happy with the partner we are sharing our life with or is it just the lack of connection that drives us into the arm of an other “lover”(this goes with singles and coupled up ones). If the other is just substitute for the lack our present partner then it would be appropriate to go within and ask the question from oneself “why is this so?”. It might be so that our life partner has tough the lessons we need to learn. We might need to let them go no matter what the situation is in the family. If we are reluctant to acknowledge the problems we are only making things more intense in the future. If we are single and able to be happy and satisfied on our own company then I would say that one is ready to meet a soul partner. Partnering should never start from neediness nor the feeling of lack of something. This doesn’t mean that we would have it all and we wouldn’t want to experience things together with someone, but we are happy doing things on our own or with OUR own friends, for I see it is very important to both parties to have private friends to go out or have hobbies. This is because if you will find yourself breaking up you will not be dependant on your parners or your mutual friends, they might not want to spend time with you if you break up for numerous reasons. So never give up on your own circle no matter what your marital status is. Know who are healthy to be around with but never give up on your own friends for partner’s sake.

To know your TF

You need to know yourself and you need to come from a place of authenticity. You don’t have to be perfect for they love you who you are, but there is no place for clouded truth.

They are demanding and they know/feel if you try to straighten the corner or leave meaningful things unsaid/shared. The way you treat yourself sets the tone how you treat them so they are monitoring you to be able to tell if you are “worthy” to know them better. Remember that they have their values and standards how they let people to treat them. You are no different from anyone else. Only by knowing your own values and owning your own power you are able to come forward.

TF is about knowing yourself and loving yourself as much as the other. Are you sure you love yourself as much? Have you done your work? They will not come to you and tell how they want to be treated for you have to realize it yourself. Do not come from a place of cultural mind or ego but from a place of heart energy. You know who they are by knowing yourself. They may have some differences but those are minor facts, human facts.

Is it the need to speak/communicate now? She/he has their abilities that maybe differ from yours so you just need to know how to communicate. When the channel is open, they are receiving. Sometimes they might be hesitant or unwilling to respond. Some are more within the angelic realms so they need to be contact more from that place than thru other ways. Our skill develop all the time too, so maybe later they can communicate other ways.

When coming closer it would be appropriate to ask if something bothers. Her/his love is unconditional, they will try to work and help the other one as well as possible. Most of us TF’s have some form of social media sites/profiles to make asking possible. Hiding is only a form of insecurity about the fact that one might not be sure if it is for them that they are asking. This can also mean communication thru telepathy, though it gets less mixed up than social media.

Love as partners is a different matter that love as friends and co-creators, that is also a thing to be considered. Higher self has planed this meeting and there might be other people to consider, specially their feelings, when opening and allowing this communication/co-creation. Therefore it would be ideal to know little bit more about the other person, but people are what they are. Most people are not authentic with this matter, which can be a impediment for co-creation. At least for myself kind of person. I have to know the proper protocol. Most people don’t care I have noticed. (This was just a side trail how I see things.) We have to respect each and everyone’s way, but it sure helps in the process when you know that you are not stepping to anybody’s toes. Now some people might say that all we need to do is think ourselves to know the wants and so on, but let me just say, that is the cause to the most of the situations we have lead ourselves in this world. The elbow tactics, the wants, the needs etc.

The TF is one thing and the love partner is an other. Yes they may be the same person, but then again they may not. You may daydream and visualize, but if the other (TF), is not in the same page to become lover then you are just making yourself extremely miserable. Therefore it would be so much more easier to set the protocol how you two are going to work, when you are ready for your mission. Yes there will be more lovers/real life partners maybe in the future, for we are setting a new template to  partnership, but this is a time of change and we need to understand that not everyone will be ideal partners. And even if TF’s would find themselves living under same roof, the road will not be smooth as it never is for lovers. We should accept that. Part of living as lovers means to deal with hardships, it is a way to learn and grow. My advice would be simply to take a bull by the horns and work thru hardship, learn to listen carefully and learn to speak when necessary for silence is a well known killer.

I wish lots of love to everyone’s journey towards their happy meaningful relationships, whether they are TF or other.