This was a post that I read today. It was one of those quote type of pictures and the person asked what are we most afraid of three following things. The idea was kind of absurd from the beginning because when you really read what it was all about the person had a perception of unconditional love that was not obviously anything of sort. First I thought that they are entitled to their opinion and they will grow later to understand what the unconditional love is truly about so I felt better not to reply or say anything. Then I noticed this thought kept coming into my mind to bother me. I thought what is it? Why do I feel this way and why does it bother’s me? What is my perception?
So I clarified to myself how I see unconditional love. Then I asked myself is it possible that unconditional could mean different things in different relationships? Is there something that I should allow, change or perceive differently? I came to a conclusion that unconditional love in a romantic relationship is different to a brotherhood/sisterhood relationship. That sometimes we humans confuse that unconditional love is meaning having multiple partners as if sexual activity would be some (hippie) kind of answer.
Unconditional love truly means that you know what you want and set boundaries according to that and then respect the other persons choices. So other person might not see it as unconditional to have multiple sex partners. Some might even say that unconditional love truly respects one another so much that they would never harass, insult or persuade into sexual encounter in any ways. I see this as a problem with many cultures. Men don’t respect females integrity or rights to walk on a street or wherever they go like males do. Even when females enter a bar by themselves some men think that the only reason females go there is to search sexual contacts or some sort of boost for self-esteem (search for admiration etc.).
I so wish this bubble would burst now. Females who have balance and unconditional self-love to themselves don’t need admiration or any sexual implying to know that they are good enough. All humans, males and females should be allowed to have safe environment without fear of getting harassed or attacked or insulted sexually no matter where they go or what they wear.
It is breaking my heart to read the news where these certain nationalities emigrate or come to our country as refugees and then continue to live by their old cultural standards meaning the harassment to young girls even rape (is acceptable if this girl happens to walk on her own on a street at night). Many will now say that no culture can be that way, that no religion allows this kind of insult or crime to take place without punishment, yet it happens everyday somewhere around the world and so many times the true victim gets punished as if they did something wrong as if that was their fault. The males should truly take a look at themselves. What if the girl raped or murdered even was your sister/sister-in-law/child? How could you ever accept such a cruelty? Do you think that the only punishment would be put them in prison or cut their body part off? The challenge and the only way we could win this is to do mental healing and start to realize how SICK some behaviors and cultural traditions are. Women don’t need protection but equal rights to go wherever men are allowed to go too. Women are in need of respect as spiritual beings and as physical beings. Men should evolve from hunters into MEN.
Time is now! We don’t need your protection. We need only respect and our civil right to be met. We are equal with you.